So, You’re Divorced. Now What?

Who ever daydreamed about being a divorced woman in her 60s? 

Nobody, that’s who.

This was not the plan!

Feeling old isn’t fun. Feeling old and forgotten? Even less fun.

Add a divorce to the mix—the separation from everything familiar—and it’s like the universe has you in the glare of a brutal spotlight, so everyone on the planet can watch, while you try to figure out who you are and what your next step is.

Divorce is messy, and it’s been around since the invention of lawyers, but there’s still no play book for it.  What works for one person doesn’t work for everyone. 

Rebuilding your life after divorce doesn’t happen overnight, it is a collection of small steps and small victories – some frustrating, some funny, and some deeply meaningful – just one awkward moment at a time.

Sometimes it’s that moment when the only voice in your head sounds an awful lot like your great aunt Agatha, telling you that “Good girls don’t get divorced”, and you wonder how on earth you can turn this mess into a life.

And sometimes it’s the simple things, like putting gas in the car and resisting the urge to ask the ten-year-old attendant, who smells like Cheetos, for help, and in that moment you know you’re going to be alright.  

Nobody dreams of being here, but here you are.

Vulnerable and Brave.

And you’re not finished yet.

I know this feels scary but I want you to know that you’re not alone, I’m right here with you.  Let’s take just one small step at a time.